I'm 40 years old, and have dealt with secondary infertility for almost a decade now. The hardest part for me throughout the years has been the unknown. Never knowing if this might be your lucky month. Never knowing if the things you try are even going to work. Never knowing if you'll get your surprise miracle baby some day. Never knowing if all the money you've spent in hopes of this changing your life, will ever be worth it. Just the sheer unpredictability of Infertility is brutal at times. I'm also thankful that I'm over the worst of the grief of it. In my case, time does heal. No, it didn't turn out the way I'd hoped for my only child to have a sibling. But also, I've come so far in surrender, acceptance, and peace. And truly.... even fully LOVING the life I do have with the people I've been so lucky and blessed to do this life with ❤️ Now it's your turn. Tell me in the comments, what has been the hardest part of your infertility journey?

I'm 40 years old, and have dealt with secondary infertility for almost a decade now. The hardest part for me throughout the years has been the unknown. Never knowing if this might be your lucky month. Never knowing if the things you try are even going to work. Never knowing if you'll get your surprise miracle baby some day. Never knowing if all the money you've spent in hopes of this changing your life, will ever be worth it. Just the sheer unpredictability of Infertility is brutal at times. I'm also thankful that I'm over the worst of the grief of it. In my case, time does heal. No, it didn't turn out the way I'd hoped for my only child to have a sibling. But also, I've come so far in surrender, acceptance, and peace. And truly.... even fully LOVING the life I do have with the people I've been so lucky and blessed to do this life with ❤️ Now it's your turn. Tell me in the comments, what has been the hardest part of your infertility journey?

Are you a thrift store lover too? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼 Or does it take up too much time and you'd rather buy it brand new? Both the dress and top pictured are from thrift stores and i love how much money it saves to shop at thrift stores!

Are you a thrift store lover too? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼 Or does it take up too much time and you'd rather buy it brand new? Both the dress and top pictured are from thrift stores and i love how much money it saves to shop at thrift stores!

Why do people fear change?? In the culture I grew up in, change was so feared and looked down on! I think it can be for numerous reasons, but when the number one reason to NOT change, is to control people, then it's not healthy. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Tell me In the comments 👇

Do you love Ice cream but hate the ingredients list from the store bought stuff? Then you NEED this recipe! It is the best! Comment the word RECIPE in the comments below 👇 and I'll send it your way!

Do you love Ice cream but hate the ingredients list from the store bought stuff? Then you NEED this recipe! It is the best! Comment the word RECIPE in the comments below 👇 and I'll send it your way!

The saddest lie is at the end of this reel 😭 Why do people actually believe these lies? Which one stood out to you the most? Or which ones have you must commonly heard? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼 Let's stop the stigma over mental health today! Mental health Emotional health Mental healing Emotional healing Therapy Trauma Trauma therapy

Ok I said what I said. Now tell me what you think about this topic, in the comments 👇🏼

Tell me what's the hardest thing you've faced, in the comments below.👇🏼 But first, follow me @hope.and.a.hug for more encouraging content. I care I'm here for you. I'm listen to your story. I won't judge. The desires of your heart matter. Your STORY matters. If you can relate to any of this, let's be friends💗

Probably the most true audio I've ever heard right? ❤️❤️ Making memories together is truly my favorite thing with my little family! What is a favorite memory you've made with your family? Even if infertility has robbed you of having your own children (or in my case, as many as I wanted to have) it doesn't need to rob you of the huge gift of making memories together. Yes, even if it's just the two of you. Now tell me in the comments, what memories you've made together recently 👇🏼

Probably the most true audio I've ever heard right? ❤️❤️ Making memories together is truly my favorite thing with my little family! What is a favorite memory you've made with your family? Even if infertility has robbed you of having your own children (or in my case, as many as I wanted to have) it doesn't need to rob you of the huge gift of making memories together. Yes, even if it's just the two of you. Now tell me in the comments, what memories you've made together recently 👇🏼

It might not be what you're thinking...👇🏼 But this is the time for living, not for waiting around! Life is too short to wish for something so long, not get it anyway, and then let it affect how you're actually living the life you've been blessed with! So we're done. Done with tracking cycles Done with trying to figure out the causes. Done with spending money, that got us nowhere. Thankful for the things we've tried, but not into trying more. And it is absolutely so freeing!🙌🏼 We have the 3 of us as a tiny little family to go live life FULL! And we are loving it! Making so many fun memories together, and cherishing what we DO have instead of what we didn't get! How are you choosing to live fully, in spite of the circumstances that came your way in life? Let's talk about it in the comments 👇🏼

It might not be what you're thinking...👇🏼 But this is the time for living, not for waiting around! Life is too short to wish for something so long, not get it anyway, and then let it affect how you're actually living the life you've been blessed with! So we're done. Done with tracking cycles Done with trying to figure out the causes. Done with spending money, that got us nowhere. Thankful for the things we've tried, but not into trying more. And it is absolutely so freeing!🙌🏼 We have the 3 of us as a tiny little family to go live life FULL! And we are loving it! Making so many fun memories together, and cherishing what we DO have instead of what we didn't get! How are you choosing to live fully, in spite of the circumstances that came your way in life? Let's talk about it in the comments 👇🏼

Tell me your thoughts on this please👇🏼 Why is it that all over this app, women are talking all the time about how they are helping their husbands by making money online? And yet.... Hardly any are talking about the joy it is to just trust in your husband and be grateful for his leading and complete provision for your family? Yes I try to sell things. No I'm not very good at it, and most times I don't really make a profit, I just cover my supplements. BUT.... I've decided it's ok. Trying to put myself and my products out there all the time causes me stress. And life is too short to live with stress. Plus my husband works hard for us, and since he started his own business this year, he's been so blessed with the right clients, and our financial load has been lifted big time, by the income he alone brings to our household ❤️ I'm so proud of him! I think it would be so refreshing to hear what you're thankful for, that your husband does to provide for your family, in the comments below 👇🏼 It's not an easy responsibility they have, and I'm so grateful for a husband that fills his place so well. And no, there is nothing wrong with you helping him by making money. Just don't forget all he does as well. And let's trust our husbands well, and not feel pressured to sell a certain amount each month.❤️ @daveeshbach

Tell me your thoughts on this please👇🏼 Why is it that all over this app, women are talking all the time about how they are helping their husbands by making money online? And yet.... Hardly any are talking about the joy it is to just trust in your husband and be grateful for his leading and complete provision for your family? Yes I try to sell things. No I'm not very good at it, and most times I don't really make a profit, I just cover my supplements. BUT.... I've decided it's ok. Trying to put myself and my products out there all the time causes me stress. And life is too short to live with stress. Plus my husband works hard for us, and since he started his own business this year, he's been so blessed with the right clients, and our financial load has been lifted big time, by the income he alone brings to our household ❤️ I'm so proud of him! I think it would be so refreshing to hear what you're thankful for, that your husband does to provide for your family, in the comments below 👇🏼 It's not an easy responsibility they have, and I'm so grateful for a husband that fills his place so well. And no, there is nothing wrong with you helping him by making money. Just don't forget all he does as well. And let's trust our husbands well, and not feel pressured to sell a certain amount each month.❤️ @daveeshbach

Here's what you say instead...👇🏼 📢 "I'm here for you." 📢 "It's ok to be real with me. You don't need to always be positive" 📢 "I know you're doing the best you can." 📢 "This is not a sign that you're not trusting God enough." What would YOU say? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

Here's what you say instead...👇🏼 📢 "I'm here for you." 📢 "It's ok to be real with me. You don't need to always be positive" 📢 "I know you're doing the best you can." 📢 "This is not a sign that you're not trusting God enough." What would YOU say? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

Do we have anything in common? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼 And follow me if infertility is part of your story, if you care deeply about mental health, and just want to see encouraging content on this platform (with a little humor mixed in 😜) You're at the right place! Tell me about yourself!

At one of my appointments, my doctor told me that👇🏼 With the way everything is looking from my recent blood labs, it's a very low probability of getting pregnant currently. You'd think that would have crushed me. But you know what, I pretty much knew it already. If nothing has happened in 8 years, something must not be ok in my/our bodies. 😭 I know it's very unlikely I'll get pregnant (probably ever). But I also know God. And I know that with Him nothing is impossible 💗 I'm not expecting it, but there is always a tiny shred of hope there. What are YOU holding onto, even if it looks very unlikely that it'll happen for you? If you've ever dealt with Infertility, Have you ever been told this by your doctor? Did you ever go on to get pregnant in the future? SEO: Infertility Infertility awareness Infertility community Secondary Infertility Primary infertility Grief Loss Hope Healing Life with Infertility Infant loss Miscarriage You are not alone I care Your story matters Christian mama Community Hope after infertility Life after infertility Life and infertility

Do you think it's harder on Mom to see him need to play alone, than it is actually hard on him? You know, because I know differently, since I grew up with lots of siblings. I know what he's missing. He doesn't know the difference. Except he does. Kind of. Because he sees other kids who do have siblings, getting to do all the things together. It's just one of those things that kinda broke my heart. I told him he could come down unless he's having fun, and he said he was playing with Legos. So I guess I should just enjoy the moments of quiet instead of feel bad for him playing alone up there. What do you think? Is it harder on me than on him? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

My experience with Infertility didn't involve IVF, IUI or more medical medication, shots etc. I know some would say that I really didn't try all my options. They may be right. But what's most important is that I feel at peace with the things we did try. Infertility journeys look so different for everyone! Let's be here to support each other! ❤️ What have you personally tried on your Infertility journey so far? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

It just makes me sad sometimes that he can't just shrug things off and go run and play with his brothers and sisters when a topic is over his head. Children aren't meant to need to take in so many adult conversations Children deserve the freedom to run, play, and be carefree—because their little brains aren’t built to carry the weight of adult responsibilities, cares, and conversations. But when you’re growing up in an “adult world”… maybe shaped by heartbreak, like the quiet pain of secondary Infertility, or even just not the ability to go join your siblings in play, when you're not interested in another adult conversation... …it’s not always possible to avoid it. They see the sadness. They feel the tension. They hear the silence of no other kids voices and laughter to join their own. And sometimes, they grow up faster than they should because of it. 😥 Let’s hold space for the little ones who are learning to navigate emotions too big for their age— and for the parents who are doing their best, even when their hearts are quietly breaking, seeing their child NOT have that they so badly wanted to give them. I know I don't need to feel guilt for it, because it's all out of my control. But I still feel it heavy sometimes. Can you relate? Or does this make any sense to anyone out there? I want to hear your story in the comments 👇🏼

Whether you earn money on this app or not, you're still enough🫶🏼 I see all over this app, ways to make money and they make it sound so guaranteed! Well guess what? Nothing, absolutely NOTHING comes without hard work and grit in some way or another. And yes it's amazing if you can use this app to generate some income. I have a little here and there. But I'm not going to lie and make it sound like I've made a lot, because I haven't. Maybe some day I'll be able to. Maybe I won't. And either way is ok! Because I've been so hugely blessed with a husband who works hard to make a lot of money and takes care of our needs(and even some wants!) What's your thoughts on this topic? I want to hear them in the comments 👇🏼

Whether you earn money on this app or not, you're still enough🫶🏼 I see all over this app, ways to make money and they make it sound so guaranteed! Well guess what? Nothing, absolutely NOTHING comes without hard work and grit in some way or another. And yes it's amazing if you can use this app to generate some income. I have a little here and there. But I'm not going to lie and make it sound like I've made a lot, because I haven't. Maybe some day I'll be able to. Maybe I won't. And either way is ok! Because I've been so hugely blessed with a husband who works hard to make a lot of money and takes care of our needs(and even some wants!) What's your thoughts on this topic? I want to hear them in the comments 👇🏼

But seriously though, never use the word "just" for anyone dealing with Infertility! ➡️It's a dismissing comment. ➡️It's not caring. ➡️ It makes them feel like "it can't really be THAT bad?!" ➡️It's trying to make them feel guilty for something they have no control over. ➡️ And often, they've already tried all the things, or at least all the things they are comfortable with. What would you much rather hear instead? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

Watch to the end for the most "efficient" technique to folding his shorts 😜🫢 Laundry is a technique, apparently 🤣 I love making short form videos and I'm having even more fun adding in some humor here and there😆 Jasper and I both howled as we watched him find all the holes, when we rewatched the video. It was a lot of fun, and provided the laughter I needed for today!😜

I mean, did she REALLY think that was helpful advice?! 😜🫣😄 What's the most unhinged thing someone has told you when you were struggling? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

Which ones surprised you? 😄😜 Which ones DIDN'T surprise you about me? None of these things make me better than you. They're just a tiny part of my story! Now tell me if you can relate to any of them, if any of them surprised you, or tell me something about YOU! Let's hear it in the comments👇🏼 And don't forget to follow @hope.and.a.hug for more infertility community support, mental health support, and encouraging content!

And several more fun facts about me⬇️ ☀️I have a small business. ☀️I have gone through almost a decade of secondary Infertility. ☀️I'm a true empath and anything touching or sad makes me cry. ☀️Mental health is extremely important to me. ☀️ I'm passionate about people being well cared for, listened to, and celebrated. ☀️ I don't like sea food. Can you relate to any of these things? Tell me which ones, in the comments👇🏼 Or, tell me something about yourself that most people don't know about you😄 ... And GO⬇️

Infertility makes you feel like you can't stop. You always need to be taking the next step. Seeking the next answers. Taking more tests. And it's exhausting. If you've been through it, you know it. But maybe you just need to get away for a couple hours and chill. And no, I'm not here saying "you just need to relax, and it'll happen!"🫢🫣 Because we all know that's NOT how it happens! But it might do your body good and it might just help you mental state as well! Let me know in the comments if getting away from the grind helps you feel more calm and less anxious 👇🏼 I know it does for me!

Infertility makes you feel like you can't stop. You always need to be taking the next step. Seeking the next answers. Taking more tests. And it's exhausting. If you've been through it, you know it. But maybe you just need to get away for a couple hours and chill. And no, I'm not here saying "you just need to relax, and it'll happen!"🫢🫣 Because we all know that's NOT how it happens! But it might do your body good and it might just help you mental state as well! Let me know in the comments if getting away from the grind helps you feel more calm and less anxious 👇🏼 I know it does for me!

Just because life didn't turn out the way you dreamt it would for you, doesn't mean it's all bad. This video becomes more and more real, the older our only son gets! We love adventuring together, and having a big kid is one of the funnest ways to travel! Infertility rocked my world and what I thought would be a "normal" big happy family. But what is normal anyway? I'm so glad God didn't decide that one way is normal. We're all unique as God made us, every single one of us! And that goes for families too! And here we are, 10 years of marriage, lots of hard, but also, SO much good and blessings! What's something you're grateful for, even if it doesn't look at all how you imagined it would? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

Can you tell what mine is? What's that thing you can never be without? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼😜😋

Just had to hop on this trend....😄 But seriously though, a decade of wanting something, trying for it, praying for it, and still getting NOTHING... Is a LONG time! Just saying! How long are YOU waiting/trying? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼 I'm also here to say I'm so grateful to be on this side of it. Content with the wonderful life I DO have, and also would be absolutely thrilled for a surprise pregnancy after that long decade wait!

Do you agree? Disagree? I am convinced that going through something as hard as Infertility, or secondary Infertility, for almost a decade like I have, and come out the other side, and still be the same person you were when it started... I just don't believe that's possible. ➡️Trauma changes you. ➡️Waiting for something that long and still not getting it, changes you. ➡️ Hormones off balance changes you. ➡️ Watching your only child want a sibling so badly but you can't fix it for him changes you. Tell me how your personal journey has changed you, in the comments below 👇🏼 It doesn't need to be Infertility related but I'd love to hear it!

Infertility makes you feel like you can't stop. You always need to be taking the next step. Seeking the next answers. Taking more tests. And it's exhausting. If you've been through it, you know it. But maybe you just need to get away for a couple hours and chill. And no, I'm not here saying "you just need to relax, and it'll happen!"🫢🫣 Because we all know that's NOT how it happens! But it might do your body good and it might just help you mental state as well! Let me know in the comments if getting away from the grind helps you feel more calm and less anxious 👇🏼 I know it does for me!

Have you always been made to feel like this? 👇🏼 That sharing about your weaknesses, or about the things you're going through is just being negative, not trusting God enough, or that you should just have more faith and it wouldn't be so hard? Yeah, us too! And I'm gonna be sharing about the road of Infertility, mental health struggles in our home, and how all of these things have affected me big time in my own mental and emotional health. I firmly believe that you can't go through hard stuff year after year, without it affecting your mental and emotional health in one way or another! Yes. God is enough. But also yes, He gave us people to help us along the way! And sometimes those people come in the form of counselors and therapists, and praise the Lord for that! Have you ever been made to feel like counseling is just weird and for the needy people, and really, if you're a true Christian, you should only need God and the help of the church? 🫣😭❤️ Tell me in the comments, what your experience has been👇🏼

How ARE you supporting your husband right now? Remember that our husbands often have less of a community than we do when it comes to infertility, and sometimes even just in general hard stuff that comes along in life! Women are created in such a way that they form community more quickly. They're probably quicker to look out for each other, and support one another through the ups and downs. Be there for your husband!❤️ And pray often that God would surround Him with like minded friends, and friends that understand and support each other well.

Remember that our husbands often have less of a community than we do when it comes to infertility, and sometimes even just in general hard stuff that comes along in life! Women are created in such a way that they form community more quickly. They're probably quicker to look out for each other, and support one another through the ups and downs. Be there for your husband!❤️ And pray often that God would surround Him with like minded friends, and friends that understand and support each other well.

Because when you feel the most alone is when people don't check in. I know people can make any excuse like, "well I don't know what to ask or what to say..." Listen it's really NOT that hard! Just very simply say, "so how ARE you feeling right now in regards to your Infertility journey, your miscarriage, your overwhelming life with so many kids close together (whatever their personal situation is! ❤️) Have you checked in on a friend recently? I know one of my friends checked in on me recently and it meant the world to me! Tell me in the comments, how you would approach an "uncomfortable" silence when you're with someone who has experienced some really deep stuff?

Yes, Infertility has made it way different than I imagined, but...Nope, never boring! And one of my absolute favorite things to do is travel with our little family! What's one of YOUR favorite things to do with your people you've been blessed with? Let's hear it, in the comments 👇🏼

What's one of your favorite summer fresh foods? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼 This is a different kind of content for me, but I love these so much, maybe someone else would too!

Yes, Infertility has made it way different than I imagined, but...Nope, never boring! And one of my absolute favorite things to do is travel with our little family! What's one of YOUR favorite things to do with your people you've been blessed with? Let's hear it, in the comments 👇🏼

What's one of your favorite summer fresh foods? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼 This is a different kind of content for me, but I love these so much, maybe someone else would too!

Tell me your story in the comments 👇🏼 I'm so very grateful to be at peace in the stage we're in, in our family life! But that doesn't automatically make the last almost decade long path of secondary Infertility just disappear! I've found acceptance, surrender, and even JOY with what the Lord has blessed me with in life! I hope you're feeling that today as well! But please know, that if you're not there yet, it's ok! 🫶🏼 Keep on putting one foot in front of the other, and doing the best you can! Tell me, how are you REALLY doing right now? I'm here for you in the comments, or you can message me directly if that's more comfortable for you.

If you're dealing with Infertility, secondary Infertility, not being able to carry a baby to full term... This is my prayer for you 🫶🏼 Know that I care, so very much! Tag and share with a friend who needs to have this prayed over them!

Tell me your story in the comments 👇🏼 I'm so very grateful to be at peace in the stage we're in, in our family life! But that doesn't automatically make the last almost decade long path of secondary Infertility just disappear! I've found acceptance, surrender, and even JOY with what the Lord has blessed me with in life! I hope you're feeling that today as well! But please know, that if you're not there yet, it's ok! 🫶🏼 Keep on putting one foot in front of the other, and doing the best you can! Tell me, how are you REALLY doing right now? I'm here for you in the comments, or you can message me directly if that's more comfortable for you.

Just because life didn't turn out the way you dreamt it would for you, doesn't mean it's all bad. This video becomes more and more real, the older our only son gets! We love adventuring together, and having a big kid is one of the funnest ways to travel! Infertility rocked my world and what I thought would be a "normal" big happy family. But what is normal anyway? I'm so glad God didn't decide that one way is normal. We're all unique as God made us, every single one of us! And that goes for families too! And here we are, 10 years of marriage, lots of hard, but also, SO much good and blessings! What's something you're grateful for, even if it doesn't look at all how you imagined it would? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

And truly, this is NOT just about Infertility!!! For real though! All it takes is support and genuine care for what they're going through. We know when you're genuine. We know when you're not. Remember ➡️ this is NOT just about Infertility!!! Anything someone is going through needs kindness, care, compassion, and someone to sit with them! I know everyone is different, but me personally, just come show up and sit with me, or invite me to do something fun. It's all about TIME spent, knowing you're well supported through this thing we call life. 🫶🏼 Now you tell me, what's YOUR favorite way to feel loved and supported? There are no wrong answers! Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

Here's why it's not helpful👇🏼 Sharing specific scriptures with people who are going through Infertility, miscarriage, or child loss, doesn't really prove to be that helpful, because it can feel condemning instead of encouraging in a time when you need all the support you can get! Has this ever happened to you? Or what verses have people used to get you to believe your situation isn't really as bad as you feel it is? 🫣😭 Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

Comments like this are what gets me. Even though I'm at peace with where I'm at with my Infertility story, my heart is very much in tune with the infertility community out there, and I'm going to support them in any way I can! And I'm for sure not going to use scripture that might make them feel less than people who have children. Yes we understand the verse. Children are indeed a blessing. But that doesn't mean we're not BLESSED with or without children. Tell me your thoughts on this one, in the comments 👇🏼

Comments like this are what gets me. Even though I'm at peace with where I'm at with my Infertility story, my heart is very much in tune with the infertility community out there, and I'm going to support them in any way I can! And I'm for sure not going to use scripture that might make them feel less than people who have children. Yes we understand the verse. Children are indeed a blessing. But that doesn't mean we're not BLESSED with or without children. Tell me your thoughts on this one, in the comments 👇🏼

I said what I said 😜 Which ones do you agree with? Or not agree with? What propaganda are you NOT falling for? Tell me in the comments below 👇🏼

Life when Infertility enters your world changes everything doesn't it? Those plans you had of having at least ____ children? Yeah, Infertility definitely teaches you how out of control you are! What changes have you had from what you expected would be your normal life? It doesn't need to be Infertility related, but I want to hear it! Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

I said what I said 😜 Which ones do you agree with? Or not agree with? What propaganda are you NOT falling for? Tell me in the comments below 👇🏼

Life when Infertility enters your world changes everything doesn't it? Those plans you had of having at least ____ children? Yeah, Infertility definitely teaches you how out of control you are! What changes have you had from what you expected would be your normal life? It doesn't need to be Infertility related, but I want to hear it! Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

I mean, I haven't researched it, but I certainly just had a big mug of coffee.... 😜 What's the strangest advice you've been given in the personal journey you're on, whether it's Infertility related or not! Tell me in the comments below 👇🏼

I mean, I haven't researched it, but.... 😜 What's the strangest advice you've been given in the personal journey you're on, whether it's Infertility related or not! Tell me in the comments below 👇🏼

The first 4 years are the hardest because👇🏼 Hope is the strongest. Once you've gone past 4 or 5 years, your hope dies more and more. And our son is already 9, so hope has really gotten low! Thankfully, I'm at peace currently, with whatever happens. I don't feel like I NEED to have another child in order to live a more full, fulfilling life. But goodness, wouldn't it be so awesome if God decided to surprise us! Only He knows. And I rest in that! Tell me in the comments, what you're hoping God decides to surprise you with this year yet! And if you're just here wanting the recipe to these delicious treats, just comment the word RECIPE and I'll get it to you 👇🏼

The first 4 years are the hardest because👇🏼 Hope is the strongest. Once you've gone past 4 or 5 years, your hope dies more and more. And our son is already 9, so hope has really gotten low! Thankfully, I'm at peace currently, with whatever happens. I don't feel like I NEED to have another child in order to live a more full, fulfilling life. But goodness, wouldn't it be so awesome if God decided to surprise us! Only He knows. And I rest in that! Tell me in the comments, what you're hoping God decides to surprise you with this year yet! And if you're just here wanting the recipe to these delicious treats, just comment the word RECIPE and I'll get it to you 👇🏼

My experience with Infertility didn't involve IVF, IUI or more medical medication, shots etc. I know some would say that I really didn't try all my options. They may be right. But what's most important is that I feel at peace with the things we did try. Infertility journeys look so different for everyone! Let's be here to support each other! ❤️ What have you personally tried on your Infertility journey so far? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

My experience with Infertility didn't involve IVF, IUI or more medical medication, shots etc. I know some would say that I really didn't try all my options. They may be right. But what's most important is that I feel at peace with the things we did try. Infertility journeys look so different for everyone! Let's be here to support each other! ❤️ What have you personally tried on your Infertility journey so far? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

We got Dave's results back from his semen analysis and it's all normal. So clearly it's my body (which was what I assumed anyway) that isn't working well. But I'm weary of trying I'm done with tracking and all the what if this or what if that. I'm 40. I just want to rest in whatever is! This doesn't mean we won't ever pray for another baby, because we'd be delighted to have a surprise pregnancy. But somehow you just know when it's time to just let it go. And we've reached that place. I'm at peace, for now anyway. Tell me more about YOUR story in the comments, and let's support each other!

When we talk about pains and burdens out loud ⬇️ We often help not only ourselves but others who may be afraid to speak up. No one should have to suffer alone. Sure social media can be obnoxious and frivolous in so many ways, but for connecting with others who have walked in your shoes there is truly nothing better. Do you agree? Disagree? Tell me your thoughts about being open and vulnerable on this app, in the comments below 👇🏼 And just for the record, I have met so many infertility supporters here in Instagram, followed their stories, grieved with them, rejoiced with them with their miracles, and held space for all the emotions they need to navigate! Support is the best thing, no matter where you find yourself in life! Now tell me your thoughts 👇🏼

We got Dave's results back from his semen analysis and it's all normal. So clearly it's my body (which was what I assumed anyway) that isn't working well. But I'm weary of trying I'm done with tracking and all the what if this or what if that. I'm 40. I just want to rest in whatever is! This doesn't mean we won't ever pray for another baby, because we'd be delighted to have a surprise pregnancy. But somehow you just know when it's time to just let it go. And we've reached that place. I'm at peace, for now anyway. Tell me more about YOUR story in the comments, and let's support each other!

Even when God is silent, He is not still.👇🏼 He’s orchestrating details, aligning hearts, and preparing miracles behind the scenes. Just because you can’t hear Him doesn’t mean He’s not speaking—sometimes, His silence is the setup. Here are three powerful things God could be doing in you during the waiting and the hard seasons: 1. Building Endurance and Trust He’s teaching you how to stand when things don’t make sense—deepening your faith, so it’s not based on outcomes but on who He is. That kind of trust can’t be faked; it’s forged in fire. 2. Refining Your Character The waiting reveals what needs healing—impatience, pride, fear, or doubt—and gives space for transformation. He’s shaping you into someone who carries peace, grace, and strength even in storms. 3. Preparing You for What You Prayed For❤️ Sometimes your heart needs to grow before your blessing arrives. He’s aligning your perspective, strengthening your identity, and making sure you don’t just receive the promise—you’re ready to steward it well. If you're in a waiting season, I hope this resonates with you. ❤️ Tag someone in the comments, who needs this encouragement, or share to your stories and be sure to tag me @hope.and.a.hug when you do. 👇🏼

I wasn't aware tears would be involved, when I decided to hop on this trend...😭 The joy you feel with all those sweet firsts, never knowing they'll very little be your last as well😭 The rush of grief I felt listening back to that video, I was not prepared for. I'm glad my body is beginning to recognize what I'm feeling and why I'm feeling it. Infertility is trauma. Secondary infertility is trauma. Trauma that you don't know if it will ever end. There is never any closure, because you're still keeping your heart open to the possibility of just MAYBE it'll happen again.? And thank God, He is also a healer. He didn't intend for it to be this way. He intended that our bodies work well, and easily conceive. But we live in a fallen world. Outside of the new heaven and new earth, we aren't promised anything when it comes to our family size. Now tell me YOUR version of this trend , "she doesn't know it yet, but .." Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

Ok, here it is...👇🏼😏 The idea that having children, especially LOTS of them, somehow makes a person more sanctified.😏 I do have a child, and yes, there are plenty of opportunities for sanctification. BUT... Having children isn't the only way to be sanctified. If that was the case, those who are dealing with Infertility/miscarriage/child loss would somehow be less sanctified?🤔 And then what about singlehood? I think God can use so many different things to sanctify us, and when I hear (or even feel) the thought that the more children you have the more sanctified you are... It just grates on me the wrong way. Having less children or no children doesn't somehow disqualify people from sanctification and make them "less than" anyone else. Ok, I said what I said. 🤭 Now I want to know YOUR thoughts on the topic. Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

And several more fun facts about me⬇️ But first don't forget to follow me @hope.and.a.hug for all things Infertility related. mental health, and just hope for the hard days in your journey. And now some more random facts about me... ☀️I have a small business. ☀️I'm passionate about people being well cared for ☀️Mental health is extremely important to me. ☀️ I'm passionate about people being well cared for, listened to, and celebrated. ☀️ I don't like sea food. Can you relate to any of the random facts about me? Tell me which ones, in the comments👇🏼 Or, tell me something about yourself that most people don't know about you😄 ... And GO⬇️

Here are some of the most common ways it impacts your mental health👇🏼 1. Chronic Grief & Loss: Each cycle can feel like a mini loss, and over time it compounds into deep, unresolved grief. 2. Depression: The ongoing disappointment, hormonal changes, and isolation can lead to persistent sadness, numbness, or hopelessness. 3. Anxiety & Hypervigilance: Constant monitoring of your body, appointments, and outcomes can make it hard to relax or feel in control. 4. Identity Crisis: Many struggle with feeling “less than,” questioning their purpose, womanhood/manhood, or worth. Which one can you identify with the most? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼 And I'm sharing some more on this topic below as well👇🏼

Because here's the truth👇🏼 A week ago I was upset about not being pregnant. This week I'm quite ok with it, and happy with our family, just the way it is. The point is, you never know how you're going to feel in this rollercoaster of a journey with Infertility. Feelings are so fickle and yet so real, right?,🤭😩 Can you relate to this? Drop what your body is feeling right now, today, in the comments 👇🏼 And remember to embrace whatever you're feeling. It's important for your mental health, and it'll help you get through each stage better if you don't ignore your body and what it's telling you. And if you can relate, don't forget to follow me @hope.and.a.hug for more encouraging content on your Infertility journey, and for hope no matter where you find yourself in life!

Tell me in the comments below...How are YOU learning to trust God right now?👇🏼 I've loved the book "whispers of hope" by @lauriebethmassey and the words on my reel are hers in her book, but they can also be mine and yours 💗 Trust seems to be an ongoing journey no matter where we find ourselves in life! Let's talk about it together 👇🏼 Or tag someone who needs hope in their journey right now.

Because here's the thing👇🏼 I'm here to offer you HOPE. Infertility may have robbed you of a lot of the dreams you had for your life. But what robs us of even more is when we don't continuously lay it down in surrender. Easy? Absolutely not! And it's not a once and done choice either. Sometimes we need to make the choice daily. For some of us it might be a monthly choice. And for some the surrender needs to happen yet again when you hear another pregnancy announcement. Surrender is one of the hardest things. But also one of the most beautiful things. 💗 Tell me in the comments, something that you're needing to surrender right now 👇🏼 It doesn't have to be about Infertility. Just anything you're personally working on to surrender, wherever you find yourself.

Secondary Infertility has taken so much from me, but this one thing I have, my son - my only son! He is such a gift. Such a miracle. Such a bright spot. He whistles all the time. He tries to figure EVERYTHING out. He has a big heart. And yes, he's also hard to parent at times! (What child isn't though?) Sometimes I think of it, that of any child given the life of an only child, God must have known he is the right one for that. Yes, it's hard for him sometimes, but he also seems to love his life and live you the full, right in the life he's been given! Anyway, I know how VERY BLESSED I am this Mother's Day weekend, and I don't want to ever take it for granted! Tell me what YOUR grateful for this Mother's Day, below in the comments 👇🏼

Mother's Day May look completely different than you ever dreamed it would. So does mine. I always thought I'd have a larger family by 40. But I'm SO VERY GRATEFUL I have my son who made me a mama, and he's still here for me to love every day, to make memories with, to guide and bring up for the Lord. 💗I'm choosing to cherish the people I do have. 💗The good things I've been blessed with. 💗The breakthroughs I've seen God do for our family. 💗 The healing and growth I've seen happen for my husband, and it's so amazing what God and Christian counseling can do to help mental and emotional health! Highly recommend!! How are you grateful this week, even though Mother's Day might look different than you dreamed it might? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

Does that make me a bad person? 👇🏼 This doesn't mean I never pray for it anymore. I just haven't been praying for it every day though. Of course there are also the times we've felt truly content with our family size and didn't feel the need to pray for another child. But it's it ok to NOT pray about something every single day, that you actually WANT to see happen? Tell me in the comments below, what you think on this topic 👇🏼

The girl I used to be in 2017, I hardly recognize! Who is this toddler mama I see from 8 years ago?? I barely know her. I forget what it was like to have a toddler. And the sweet innocence those baby years are. But Infertility changes you. And it changes the parts of yourself (or your life) that you really liked! It can make you feel like you lost yourself somewhere along the way, because you always thought your life would be having more babies and giving them siblings. Looking back at old videos and photos makes my heart almost HURT. Yes, they're so sweet and cute, but why, WHY was I never allowed to experience those baby years again?! A question I'll never get answers to! And I'm also thankful that through it all, we are carried. When we feel it's too much, we can run to the Father, and he so gently carries us. Now tell me, how is YOUR life different than it was in 2017? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

I wasn't aware tears would be involved, when I decided to hop on this trend...😭 The joy you feel with all those sweet firsts, never knowing they'll very little be your last as well😭 The rush of grief I felt listening back to that video, I was not prepared for. I'm glad my body is beginning to recognize what I'm feeling and why I'm feeling it. Infertility is trauma. Secondary infertility is trauma. Trauma that you don't know if it will ever end. There is never any closure, because you're still keeping your heart open to the possibility of just MAYBE it'll happen again.? And thank God, He is also a healer. He didn't intend for it to be this way. He intended that our bodies work well, and easily conceive. But we live in a fallen world. Outside of the new heaven and new earth, we aren't promised anything when it comes to our family size. Now tell me YOUR version of this trend , "she doesn't know it yet, but .." Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

Infertility reminds you often that it's not turning out the way you're hoping for it too. It's ok to be sad and upset about it. But then PIVOT, and turn it into PRAISE! I know my God can DO IT!! I'm gonna worship through it! What are you needing to CHOOSE to worship through today? Tell me in the comments 👇🏼 Remember, we get to choose!

Ok, here it is...👇🏼😏 The idea that having children, especially LOTS of them, somehow makes a person more sanctified.😏 I do have a child, and yes, there are plenty of opportunities for sanctification. BUT... Having children isn't the only way to be sanctified. If that was the case, those who are dealing with Infertility/miscarriage/child loss would somehow be less sanctified?🤔 And then what about singlehood? I think God can use so many different things to sanctify us, and when I hear (or even feel) the thought that the more children you have the more sanctified you are... It just grates on me the wrong way. Having less children or no children doesn't somehow disqualify people from sanctification and make them "less than" anyone else. Ok, I said what I said. 🤭 Now I want to know YOUR thoughts on the topic. Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

Here’s how to deal with it in a way that actually helps👇🏼 Let's get into it 👇🏼 If you’ve been trying to ignore or fight your anxiety, it’s no wonder it feels overwhelming. The truth is, anxiety is something we need to understand. Here’s how to deal with it in a way that actually helps: ✅ Pause and Name It – Instead of spiraling, say, “I’m feeling anxious right now.” This helps separate you from your anxiety. ✅ Breathe to Regulate – Try deep belly breathing: Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4, exhale for 8. This calms your nervous system fast. ✅ Shift Your Focus – Anxiety feeds on what-ifs. Instead of “What if this goes wrong?” try “What if I can handle it?” ✅ Move Your Body – Shaking off nervous energy through a walk, stretch, or even dancing helps release tension. Anxiety isn’t here to ruin your life—it’s here to signal something. The more you work with it instead of against it, the more control you’ll feel. Tell me in the comments, which one have you tried, that works the best for you?

What do you like to do, to savor the moment, take time for the extra fun things, and cherish the time you have with your loved ones? Let's hear yours in the comments 👇🏼 I've been so reminded when I hear of so many going through so much heartache and loss, how wonderful the gift of life is! And it's even extra special when you have good and loving relationships with the people you call FAMILY.💗 I NEVER want you take them for granted! And now we're off to camping for the weekend! We made some more dreams come true at Bass pro last night! I'd really really wanted a double chair like that so that we can sit close and snuggle if we want, on our camping excursions. We had lots of Cabela's points so we ended up only paying $42 for that HUGE double chair!!! 😳😨👏🏼👏🏼 Who wants to guess what the original price was? 🤭 Tell me in the comments 👇🏼

That "thing" we never got checked until now... Why didn't we get my husband checked before now? I don't know. I can't really answer that for you. But I think mostly it's because I've had enough of issues over the last decade with my health, that we just assumed it's because of me that we're experiencing secondary Infertility for that long. And quite possibly, that is the case. But we don't know until we know, right? We finally decided to get his part of the puzzle analyzed, so hopefully we'll know soon what the results are. Infertility friends, do you have any experience similar to this? I'd love to hear your stories in the comments 👇🏼 Let's support each other well in this lonely walk of Infertility and secondary Infertility.🫶🏼

What are you choosing today? 🫶🏼 I could choose to be bitter that Infertility robbed me of the life I've dreamt of having. Or I can choose to be joyful and content with the amazing husband God brought my way(who I also waited many years for!!!) And to be grateful for the wonderful son I've been blessed with, even though he's 9 years old with no siblings. Because, hello, secondary Infertility...😥 I choose Joy, gratitude, contentment, and peace that comes only from the Father of peace! So tell me, what are YOU choosing today? ⬇️ Joy in the life you've been given OR Sadness and bitterness in the dreams that didn't come true for you? Tell me in the comments below. 👇🏼 And don't forget to follow me @hope.and.a.hug for more encouraging content and my journey with secondary Infertility.

🛑 You might not like it here unless...⬇️ Unless you like... ☀️Coffee ☀️Flowers ☀️Making bread ☀️Hanging your laundry outside to dry ☀️Camping ☀️Hearing me talk about my journey with secondary Infertility ☀️Joy in hard things ☀️The importance of mental health Now tell me something that we BOTH like, in the comments below 👇🏼 And don't forget to follow me @hope.and.a.hug for more encouraging content in your feed! ❤️

🛑 You might not like it here unless...⬇️ Watch till the end, to know what to expect around here🫶🏼 Unless you like... ☀️Coffee ☀️Flowers ☀️Making bread ☀️Hanging your laundry outside to dry ☀️Camping ☀️Hearing me talk about my journey with secondary Infertility ☀️Joy in hard things ☀️The importance of mental health Now tell me something that we BOTH like, in the comments below 👇🏼 And don't forget to follow me @hope.and.a.hug for more encouraging content in your feed! ❤️

When anxiety feels like it’s constantly watching you, here’s what you can do⬇️ 1. Acknowledge It, Don’t Fight It – Anxiety grows stronger when we resist it. Instead of trying to push it away, recognize it for what it is: a signal, not a threat. Tell yourself, “I see you, but you don’t control me.” 2. Ground Yourself in the Present – Anxiety lives in the future, so bring yourself back to now. Try deep breathing, holding something textured, or naming five things you see to remind your brain that you’re safe. 3. Talk Back to It – Anxiety tells stories that aren’t always true. Challenge those thoughts: “Is this real, or is this my fear talking?” Shifting your inner dialogue can take away anxiety’s power. And tell me in the comments, what YOU do, when anxiety is stalking you!👇🏼

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I know what it feels like to lose hope. 💔 Giving up is the easier choice. But it's not the BEST choice.🫂 Going through almost a decade of secondary Infertility, parenting an only child, as well as mental and emotional health struggles throughout the years with my husband, not knowing our place in life, or where we really "belong"... Wondering if things will ever make sense, or if there will ever be fulfillments to some of the desires of our hearts... I'll tell you again, I know first-hand what hopelessness feels like. And it's heartbreaking. It's exhausting. It's surviving instead of thriving. But praise God, He doesn't leave us in that season! And while there will always be questions this side of eternity, we finally feel like we understand some of the other side of the what-ifs and the whys, and the "will it ever..." I'm here to tell you, hold on. Don't give up. Yes, it may take YEARS to understand. But keep pushing forward, in faith, holding God's hand. He'll show you, and renew your hope. In His time. ❤️ I'd love to hear your 'heartbreak turned into healing stories'... Or times you thought there was no point in hoping, and God showed you a path forward... Share it with us in the comments ⬇️ Tag a friend who needs hope in their journey today!

Today was such a God filled day that touched me so much! A women's retreat this morning, in a quiet peaceful setting. Teaching from the Word, then time to sit alone with the Lord, and share and pray over each other. I know this doesn't sound like a big deal. But the reality of a morning like this to me is huge! God knows my story. He knows why this was so special to me. And that's all that matters. Words aren't sufficient today. Share your moments with me in the comments 👇🏼 The times God showed up for you in such a real way it's hard to explain 🥹 I want to hear it! (If you're able to explain it!)😀

How are YOU feeling this week, if you know what Infertility is about? You've experienced all the emotions during your journey. That's a good thing. They're not meant to be stifled. Share your heart, so that you don't feel so alone this week! 🫶🏼🫂 Tell me which one describes you, in the comments 👇🏼 Are you experiencing ⬇️ 1. Heartbreak in the waiting and longing 2. Cautiously hopeful 3. At peace and content wether I have a child (or more children) or not.

8 years. Eight years of hoping, praying, grieving, and healing—over and over again. This week is Infertility Awareness Week, and I’m showing up for the women who feel unseen in their pain. For the ones who already have a child but are aching for another—and feel guilty for even feeling that way. For the ones who long so much for at least one child, and don't have that dream fulfilled. For the one who truly is a mama, but Jesus is caring for her babies in heaven instead. Any kind of infertility is real. Any kind of infant loss is real. It's confusing. It's lonely. And it doesn’t make your love or gratitude for your life any less. If you’re in the thick of it, I see you. I am you. Your story matters. Your tears are valid. And your hope is still holy. Let’s break the silence. Let’s hold space for each other. Because no one should walk this journey alone. If you’re walking this road too, you’re not alone—and your peace matters just as much as your prayers. Tell me in the comments 👇🏼 a little about yourself or your journey! Let's support each other well by sharing your stories 👇🏼

This is a safe space. 🫶🏼 Tell me your story in the comments👇🏼

Tell me in the comments what is the hardest thing about Infertility or secondary Infertility that you've experienced? For me one of the hardest things is the unpredictable parts of it. Never knowing what to expect. Hopeful but scared to hope. Content, but still thinking MAYBE this will be your month. So grateful I have a wonderful supportive husband who helps me get through it all, and of course could never do it without God forever with us! Now I want to hear YOUR story below 👇🏼

Anxiety doesn’t send a warning. You can feel fine for weeks… Energetic. Balanced. In control. Then out of nowhere — it hits. The racing heart. The tight chest. The spiral of thoughts you can’t shut off. And you wonder, “Where did this come from?” That’s the thing about anxiety — it’s unpredictable. It doesn’t always make sense. And that’s exactly why it’s so exhausting. If you’ve ever had anxiety sneak up on you when you least expected it… You’re not alone. And you’re not broken. And healing is still possible. I totally understand anxiety! And I know how unpredictable and frustrating it is! Drop the word HEAL in the comments, and I'll tell you what just might help you with controlling your anxiety 👇🏼

You're not meant to walk though this journey alone. Follow me @hope.and.a.hug for support and encouragement, and so much understanding on your journey. Tell me something about your own journey, in the comments below 👇🏼

It just makes me sad sometimes that he can't just shrug things off and go run and play with his brothers and sisters when a topic is over his head. Children aren't meant to need to take in so many adult conversations Children deserve the freedom to run, play, and be carefree—because their little brains aren’t built to carry the weight of adult responsibilities, cares, and conversations. But when you’re growing up in an “adult world”… maybe shaped by heartbreak, like the quiet pain of secondary Infertility, or even just not the ability to go join your siblings in play, when you're not interested in another adult conversation... …it’s not always possible to avoid it. They see the sadness. They feel the tension. They hear the silence of no other kids voices and laughter to join their own. And sometimes, they grow up faster than they should because of it. 😥 Let’s hold space for the little ones who are learning to navigate emotions too big for their age— and for the parents who are doing their best, even when their hearts are quietly breaking, seeing their child NOT have that they so badly wanted to give them. I know I don't need to feel guilt for it, because it's all out of my control. But I still feel it heavy sometimes. Can you relate? Or does this make any sense to anyone out there? I want to hear your story in the comments 👇🏼

Sometimes the most healing thing we can offer isn’t advice… it’s presence. No fixing. No judging. Just being there. Because real care listens with the heart, not the mouth. Have you ever needed someone to just be there without trying to change you? Tell me about it in the comments, or tell about a time that someone was there for you, and showed true care and support!

How about this instead 👇🏼 "I see you're struggling..." "I'm here for you..." Your emotions are safe with me. It's ok if you need to cry." "I know you're doing the very best you can right now." Just try kindness and presence. Be a safe space. That's the very best thing you can offer people who are struggling! Tell me in the comments, something helpful a kind friend has said or done for you, during your struggles 👇🏼